Family and upbringing: IELTS Speaking Part 3 questions & answers

Opening question

Development: society

1. Cause and effect

   Why do you think family life has changed in recent decades?

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   Sample answerBand 8Main causeAnother causeEffect

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   Economics is probably the biggest driver, since rising living costs mean both parents usually need to work, which leaves far less time for shared meals and family routines. Attitudes have shifted too, so people marry later, have fewer children and feel freer to move away from their hometown in pursuit of a career. Consequently, families are smaller and more scattered than they once were, and many children now see their grandparents only on special occasions rather than every week.

   the biggest driver

   the main cause of a change

   in pursuit of a career

   trying to achieve professional success

   more scattered than they once were

   spread more widely apart than before

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2. Compare

   How is family life today different from when your grandparents were young?

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   Sample answerBand 8ThenNowWhy it changed

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   When my grandparents were young, households tended to be large and hierarchical, with the father's word treated as law and children expected to obey without question. Families today are far more democratic, and children are encouraged to voice their opinions, even on decisions like where to go on holiday or which school to attend. That shift reflects broader changes in society, particularly better education and women's greater independence, which have made relationships at home much more equal and, in my experience, generally warmer.

   obey without question

   follow orders without ever disagreeing

   voice their opinions

   say what they think

   reflects broader changes in society

   shows wider social developments

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3. Opinion

   Do you think parents are too protective of their children nowadays?

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   Sample answerBand 8My viewWhyExampleBut

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   In many cases, yes, and it's probably fair to say parents have become more cautious than they need to be. Constant news coverage makes rare dangers feel common, so parents understandably try to eliminate every risk, but children need small doses of risk to build resilience and judgement. Plenty of ten-year-olds today aren't allowed to walk to a friend's house alone, something their parents would have done without a second thought. Then again, traffic is far heavier than it used to be, so some of that caution is entirely reasonable rather than paranoid.

   build resilience

   develop the ability to cope with difficulty

   without a second thought

   without hesitating at all

   Then again

   on the other hand

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4. Pros and cons

   What are the advantages of growing up in a large family?

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   Sample answerBand 8UpsideDownsideOn balance

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   The biggest advantage is that you're never short of company, and you learn to share, negotiate and compromise from a very young age, which are skills that serve you well later on. The flip side is that attention and money are spread more thinly, so a quieter child can easily get overlooked amid the noise. Even so, most people I know from big families say the closeness they gained outweighs any drawbacks, especially as siblings become a support network in adulthood.

   never short of company

   always have people around you

   The flip side is that

   the disadvantage of the same situation is

   outweighs any drawbacks

   is more important than the disadvantages

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Depth: the abstract and the future

1. Opinion

   How much should older and younger generations be expected to help each other?

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   Personally, I believe the support should flow in both directions, and quite generously, rather than being seen as a burden. Grandparents often have time and experience to offer, while younger people bring energy and practical skills, so each side gains something the other can't easily provide. You often see grandparents doing the school run while their grandchildren, in turn, help them set up video calls or do their shopping online. The danger, though, is turning it into an obligation enforced by guilt, because people's circumstances vary enormously, and the state still has a duty to care for elderly people without close family.

   flow in both directions

   go both ways, so both sides give

   the school run

   taking children to and from school

   in turn

   as their part of an exchange

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2. The future

   How might family life change in the future?

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   Sample answerBand 8PredictionBecauseBut

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   I'd imagine families will become even smaller and more varied, with more single-parent households, couples choosing not to have children, and several generations sharing a home out of necessity. Housing is becoming so expensive that young adults may stay with their parents well into their thirties, and an ageing population means more people will be caring for elderly relatives. Whether that brings families closer together or simply adds strain is hard to predict, and I suspect it will depend largely on how much space and support each household has.

   out of necessity

   because there is no other choice

   well into their thirties

   until a fairly late point in their thirties

   hard to predict

   difficult to know in advance

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3. What if

   If children were raised mainly by the community rather than parents, what would change?

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   Sample answerBand 8If soResultWider effect

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   If the community took the lead in raising children, kids would be exposed to a much wider range of adults, skills and viewpoints than any one household can offer. That could make them more adaptable and sociable, although many would probably miss the deep, individual attachment that a parent provides, which seems vital for emotional security. Society as a whole might become more cohesive, since everyone would feel some responsibility for the next generation, but there'd be endless disputes over who has the final say in a child's upbringing.

   took the lead in

   took the main responsibility for

   emotional security

   feeling safe, loved and stable

   has the final say

   makes the decision in the end

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4. Pros and cons

   Is the influence of parents stronger or weaker than it used to be?

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   Sample answerBand 8UpsideDownsideOn balance

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   In some ways it's stronger, because parents today tend to be much more involved in their children's lives, from homework to hobbies, and many families talk more openly than before. Yet parents now compete with a flood of outside voices, from online influencers to video platforms, so a teenager's views may be shaped more by a stranger on a screen than by anyone at home. Overall, parental influence has become less absolute but in some respects deeper, since it now has to be earned through trust rather than simply imposed.

   a flood of outside voices

   a huge number of influences from outside

   less absolute

   not as complete or total as before

   rather than simply imposed

   instead of just being forced on someone

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